I'm working on my Happiness Project, and you could have one, too! Everyone's project will look different, but it's the rare person who can't benefit. Join in -- no need to catch up, just jump in right now.
我正在进行我的快乐项目，你也应该有一个！每一个人的项目看起来都不同，但绝大部分人都会从中受益无需努力赶超，只须立刻参与。
Everyone says, and it's true, that one of the most effective ways to handle negative emotions is to lighten up. If things are sad, try to find a reason to laugh. If you're angry, joke around. Easier said than done, however.
大伙都了解，处置消极情绪效果最好方法之一是放轻松。假如你悲伤，找一个大笑的原因。假如你生气，去开个玩笑。不过，做比说要难。
I had a chance to keep my resolution to Make a joke of it last night. As a consequence of certain marital1 negotiations2 last year , my husband took on the job of dealing3 with my daughter's adventure in orthodontia. The orthodontist's office is right around the corner from his office, and he agreed that he'd schedule the appointments and take her. Which was GREAT!
上周，我有一个机会得以运用一笑了之。 根据去年的家庭协议（我得承认，这协议并非在一片祥和的氛围中签订的），我老公负责女儿牙齿矫正术的事情。牙齿校正大夫的办公室就在他的办公室拐角，老公赞同由他安排时间带她去。这真太棒了!
On our flight to Kansas City for the holidays, the Big Girl lost her functional4 applicance . We looked everywhere on the plane; it was gone. We got back home a week later, and the Big Man didn't call to make an appointment. Days went by. I reminded him periodically5, but nothing happened.
在大家去堪萨斯度假的航班上，我千金把她的设施（就是她嘴里戴的新鲜玩意，吃东西时得拿下来）弄丢了。大家在飞机上四处找遍了还是没。一周后大家回到家，大男性没打牙医电话预约。时间一每天过去。我隔一段时间就提醒他，但他无动于衷。
Whenever I thought about this delay, I became extremely annoyed. Last night, I stomped6 into our bedroom ready to turn on my anger at full volume. This really matters, this is important, she's growing now, what's the point, it's expensive, she'll only have to have braces7 longer, you promised you'd do it, etc., etc., etc. Then I thought, Make a joke of it.
一想起他的拖拉，我就十分恼怒。昨晚，我跺着脚进卧室，筹备大发雷霆。这真的非常要紧，非常重要，她正在发育，而且，那非常贵，她只得再等下去，而你答应过会去做。等等，等等。可又一想，干脆一笑了之。
So I went over, put my arm around the Big Man, and said nicely, You know what? If you don't call the orthodontist's tomorrow, I'm going to be furious8, I'm going to be enraged9, I'm going to be beside myself. I'm not threatening, just giving you fair warning. And I laughed while I said it.
于是我走过去，用手臂搂着他，温顺地说：你知不知道？假如你明天还不给校正牙医打电话。我会非常生气。我会发怒，我不了解会做出任何事情。我可没威胁你，只不过给你一个公正的警告。我边说还一边笑。
I know, I know! he said, shaking his head. I'll send myself an email right now. And he did. And today he made the appointment.
他摇了摇头说：了解，了解啦！我目前就给自己发一封邮件。 他还真发了。今天他约好了大夫。
I'm not sure if making a joke of it was more effective than getting angry, but I don't think it was less effective. And it was a much nicer way to have that unpleasant exchange. I was happier about it, and the Big Man was happier about it.
我不确定说笑是否会比愤怒更奏效，但我相信成效不会更差。而且比叫人不愉快的交流方法好得多。我对这个办法更认可；大男性也一样。
I used the same technique on myself last weekend. I had a bunch of dreaded10, dull tasks to take care of. I told myself, I'm going to clear away a lot of these chores in the next two days. It's going to be the 'Weekend of the Dreaded Tasks'! Like the 'Rodents11 of Unusual Size,' in The Princess Bride. As I groaned12 to myself as I put away the holiday decorations, organized my address list for our Valentine's cards, finally dealt with the mail that came when we were out of town, and other things too dull to mention, I repeated to myself, Oh well, this is the Weekend of the Dreaded Tasks. And just making that little joke to myself made it easier to tackle13 those tasks.
上周末我对自己使用了相同的办法。我有一堆烦人无聊的事情要做。我对自己说：我明后两天把这类杂活都做掉。这将是恐怖任务周！就仿佛The Princess Bride书中的超大型啮齿动物。我一边自个儿抱怨一边把节日饰物放好、整理情人节卡片的地址、最后处置不在家时收到的邮件，等等，其他的事情我都懒得再提。我反复告诉自己：好吧，这是恐怖任务周。 就如此，给自己编一个笑话，事情便更容易处置了。
Of course, I recognize that in neither case when I kept my resolution to Make a joke of it was I really funny. My jokes weren't funny at all. But just the attempt to take a humorous attitude made a huge difference.
当然，我承认，在遵守一笑了之的决意中，我并不感觉有趣。我的笑话一点也不好笑。但使用一个幽默的态度却可以让状况有非常大改观。
It's easy to say make a joke of it, but it's hard to do when you're feeling angry, scared, bored, or upset. Have you found a way to get yourself to make a joke?
说一笑了之容易，但当你感到愤怒、害怕、无聊或烦心的时候要做到非常难。你找到了一个让自己开玩笑的办法吗？
