Imagine you are carrying around a faux Prada bag you bought for six dollars. It looks real. It feels real. But how long can you keep convincing yourself that it is?
想象一下你背着六USD淘来的山寨普拉达四处奔走的场景。它看着是真的，摸起来也非常真。可你到底要自欺欺人多长时间呢？
Relationships all too often work the same way. Eventually, the fake label falls off, the seams bust, the handles break. The quality just isn't there.
感情也常常是如此的。到最后，仿造的标志会掉，接缝会开线，手柄会坏，水平堪忧。
There are many days we feel clueless, and riddled by blind spots. We rarely understand the difference between 'faux and full' when it comes to relationships. Too often our relationships masquerade as real, and we spend countless months trying to build on something to get us to the next phase, only to discover that we’re trapped by a faux love that's actually going nowhere.
有时候，大家没头绪，被一叶障目。大家在感情里非常难分清“山寨和真品”有什么区别，它常常伪装得这样真实。大家花了无数的时间依靠于它，期望自己得到升华，却只发现自己被困在一段不真实的感情中，毫无进展。
When a relationship is real, it's growing; it's going somewhere. You have shared interests, and there's an unspoken acceptance. And without these building blocks in place, you're setting yourself up for a pile of agony and heartache.
真实的感情是看得到将来的。双方有一同的利益和默契。没这类作为基础，你将深陷痛苦和心碎中。
Even from the beginning, in that very first week, we all know when something is wrong. It's very easy to absorb misinformation, to create and spread an underlying assumption that you're somehow incomplete if you haven't found your soul mate.
甚至在感情伊始，在刚开始的一个礼拜，如有不妥大家是知道得到的。大家比较容易同意一种错误的信息，形成并且传播一种潜在的假设：没灵魂伴侣的生活不完整。
Try taking this litmus test: The next time you are facing a snag of doubt, try going back to the first week you met, or an early moment where you felt something was off. Take a minute and see how your body feels; you may experience uneasiness or a bit of fear. Your body is telling you something crucial. Trust it, explore it, and it will reveal what you need to know.
那就试着做如此一个“石蕊（一种指示剂）测试”吧：下一次你再有疑虑、踌躇不前的时候，可以试一试回到你们刚开始相遇的那一周，或者你刚开始知道到不妥的那一刻。静下心来花点时间，看你的身体作何感受。你或许会感觉到些许不安或惧怕。你身体对你说的正是非常重要的东西，去相信它、去挖掘它，它自然会给你透露你想要的。
It isn’t wrong to want an ideal love. We all want one. And we have a perfect right to believe that such a love is possible in this life. Not a faux love. A full love.
追求理想中的爱情并非错，世人皆这样。大家也有权力去相信，生活中如此的爱是可寻的。不是伪装的爱，而是真实的爱。
