JUST like a band or gang of superheroes needs members who have different talents and powers, a circle of friends should have exactly the same thing.
正如乐队或者是超级英雄小团伙需要不同才华和能力的团员一样，朋友圈也需要这类。
“Its important to have diversity and to be able to look for support from a variety of sources,” says clinical and coaching psychologist and founder of the The Positivity Institute, Dr. Suzy Green. “They also help us to keep broader perspective on life.”
“有不同类型的朋友非常重要，它能叫你从不一样的途径获得帮助。”临床指导心理大夫、The Positivity Institute的开创者苏士 格林（Dr. Suzy Green）博士说到：“他们还能帮助大家拓宽对生命的怎么看。”
Domonique Bertolucci, life coach and author of The Happiness Code, agrees.
生活导师与《幸福密码》的作者多.贝托鲁奇（Domonique Bertolucci）十分赞同这一看法。
“You need different types of friends in the same way that you need food from different food groups. Different types of friends serve different purposes and nourish and enrich our lives in different ways.”
“你需要不同类型的朋友，正如你需要不同类型的食物。不一样的朋友有不一样的功能，他们通过不一样的办法滋养、丰富着大家的生活。”
While many of us are lucky to count our real friends on one hand, there are certain types of people its good to have around. So, how many do you know?
不少人非常幸运有几个数的来的知心朋友，但跟某些人做朋友也很好。那样，你知道多少呢？
THE FRIEND WHO IS UP FOR ANYTHING
“时刻筹备着”的朋友
People are busy, we get it. But theres nothing more frustrating than having to reschedule your re-re-re-scheduled catch-up. Everyone needs a friend who you can call at the drop of a hat. A friend who says “hell yeah, Im up for that”. Thats why its good to have a mate who you dont need to issue a 28-day notice to just to meet for a frappuccino. Its refreshing “This friend is the flexible, no frills friend who makes your life a breeze. Nothing is ever too hard and theyre open to doing new things and changing plans at short notice,” says Dr. Green. While Bertolucci agrees, “Their enthusiasm is contagious and you always have more fun when they are around.”
大家都了解大家非常忙。世界上最让人沮丧的事情莫非是你得一直一直一直一直调整我们的进度表。大伙都需要一通电话就随时能现身的朋友，一个说“恩，我立刻过来”的朋友。这就是有一个你无须提前28天预约只为喝杯咖啡的好朋友有哪些好处了。这能叫人放松（跟这种朋友不是只能喝咖啡）。“他们非常随和，不做作，叫你的生活过得轻松。什么事情都难不倒他们，他们乐于挑战新事物，一接到公告，他们就会改变原有计划。”格林博士说到。贝托鲁奇也赞同这种说法：“他们的热情会感染你，在他们身边，你一直觉着有乐趣。”
THE FRIEND WHO YOU ASPIRE TO BE
你想成为他那样的人的朋友
Oprah Winfrey once said: “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher”. And we all need to live life a little bit closer to Oprah. These people challenge you to be the best version of yourself. The only downside is that sometimes they can be infuriating and inspiring in equal measure. Dr. Greens advice: “This friend is only an important role model if they behave in ways that are authentic and genuine. They will see the best in you and give you important feedback on both your strengths and weaknesses.”
欧普拉.温弗瑞曾说：“在你身边的人应该是能提高你的人。”大家都需要过着欧普拉说到的那种生活。这类人叫你成为最好的自己。唯一的缺点就是有时他们让人气恼，有时又给人力量。格林博士的建议：“假如他们表现出诚实靠谱的一面，那样他们才是一个要紧的榜样。他们能看到你身上最好的一面，同时对于你的长处及缺点都能给出要紧的反馈。”
THE FRIEND WHO DOESNT KNOW ANY OF YOUR OTHER FRIENDS
不认识你其他友人的朋友
We like integration. We like killing two birds with one stone by catching up with several groups of friends at once. But there are times when you need to make an S.O.S call to a friend who is completely uninvolved and removed from a situation who can offer objective advice so it a bonus that your friendship exists without orbiting around your other ones. “There is a level of privacy to this friendship that doesnt exist in friendship circles,” says Bertolucci. “It will be easier to share some of your hopes and dreams, fears and concerns knowing that they are not going to be discussed when youre not around.”
大家都爱整理。大家喜欢同时拥有多个朋友圈子以达到一箭双雕的目的。但，有时你需要给一个身处事外的朋友打一通求救电话，征得他客观的建议，你们的友谊可以长存而不必围绕别的友谊存在，这是一个好处。“这种友情之间有种隐私，没有于朋友圈里，”贝托鲁奇说到：“你不在场的时候他们不会讨论你，这使大家更乐于推荐我们的愿景、梦想、担心和顾虑。”
THE FRIEND WHOS P人工智能NFULLY HONEST
十分诚实的朋友
An honest friend will not always tell you what you want to hear, but theyll certainly tell you what you need to know like if he/she is really that into you. When youve got a crisis on your hands or need to make a quick decision they are your go-to. Theyre also there to keep you away from mixing paisleys and stripes. This type of friend has the strength of “feedback” and “is a pearl who will tell it to you straight when others wont or will sugarcoat things at the very least,” says Dr. Green. But she warns that this friend is someone who does it with good intentions and for your own benefit.
诚实的朋友不会一直说你爱听的，但他们一定会对你说你需要知道的事情，他们真的关心你。当你身陷危机，需要飞速做决定的时候，你就应该去找他们。他们叫你从一团乱麻中脱身。这种朋友有“评断”的能力，“是当其他人不会对你说事实或者粉饰事实时，他们会跟你实话实说的珍宝。”格林博士说到。但她提醒到，这种朋友这么做肯定是出于好的目的，确实是为你好的。
THE FRIEND YOUVE KNOWN LonGER THAN YOUVE KNOWN YOURSELF
你知道他更甚于知道我们的朋友
History. Sometimes it works to your advantage, other times it doesnt. This is that friend who sees you out of the context of your job, your relationship, your other friends and your life as it is now. This is the friend who knew you when you had pimples and a bowl cut. There is something special about this person because they feel like home. Its nice and comforting to be around someone who has known you forever. “This is a friend you never have to put on a brave face for,” says Bertolucci. “They know you better than you know yourself and accept you unconditionally.”
历史，有时对你有利，有时则不然。这种朋友会跳出你现有些工作、感情、其他友人与你的生活的框架来看你。他们很知道你。他们很与众不同，由于他们像家人。跟知道你的人在一块感觉非常舒服。“在他们面前你无须故作坚强，”贝托鲁奇说到：“他们比你更知道你一个人，并且无条件的同意了你。”
